Dare:
Determine to guard David's secrest and to pray for them. Talk with David, and resolve to demonstrate love in spite of these issues. Really listen - make him feel safe.
Actually, this is the first one where I don't think this has been an issue. Guarding secrets - I don't talk about David's feelings or David's mistakes with anyone else. Those are intimate things between him and me. I've seen too many marriages where one of the spouses complains to someone else about their spouse and I determined I was never going to be like that. It does not good. I believe David feels safe because he does tell me how he feels about just about everything and he knows it won't go any farther. So, don't expect any big changes today.
Result:
As I thought, not a big change for me so I spent the day practicing some of the other things. When David said he needed to go to the store, did I want to go - I jumped up and put on my shoes. Not normal for me. We also stopped by Subway's for grinders and I did the ordering. It felt good to do this and didn't seem fake. I just need to keep practicing and it will become second nature.
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